General struggles

How To Get Back Into ‘Life’ Again

Hey guys,

This coronavirus has hit us in a way that we couldn’t have even prepared for. If you are anything like me, you like to be aware of all of the possible negative outcomes of a situation to ensure that you can be mentally ready for when something happens. However, none of us could have done that, with this pandemic that we’re facing right now. It has been hard on us because many of the things that we rely on have now be taken from us. For me personally, it has reminded me what it is most important (my faith, family, small pleasures) and I am glad of that but that doesn’t mean it hasn’t been difficult to adjust to this ‘new life”.

However, despite all of that, things are starting to change, and ‘life’ is coming out of hibernation (as I like to call it). Therefore, I wanted to write this post to equip you with how to get back to the ‘normalities’ of life. I say that because life isn’t normal anymore; we have to keep a distance everywhere we go and the places that we’d normally love to go, are now a place a panic. However, there is no need to be overwhelmed by it as I am going to talk you through some of the ways that you can get through it.

The one thing that I will start by saying is that everyone will have their own approaches to getting back; some will be rushing to go back to everything when it opens. Whereas others, will be staying away from any contact from outside until they can 100% be sure that this virus is gone and it’s okay to be either one! That leads me on to my first point:

~ Think about what you want to go back to

This may seem quite deep, but I want all of you reading to think about your life before this coronavirus. Were you living a life that was enjoyable for you, were you making decisions that you now regret, what was your relationship with your friends and family like, did you have a faith? I know that this coronavirus has made me think about a lot and has really emphasised to me what I need to do with my life. Not to mention that it has actually allowed me to see what my future goals are. I think that all of us are always in a hurry that we forget to think about our wellbeing and our future goals and plans. Personally, I believe that this coronavirus has happened to remind us that we need to take time and think before we make any decisions. All I am saying is, is before you rush to go back, think ‘do I actually want to go back to this?’ It’s so important to look after yourself and to think about your decisions. Essentially think of this year as a fresh start.

~ Don’t get disheartened when you find it difficult to go to somewhere

We’re all in the same boat here. It is not going to be easy to go out and do the things that you once did! I know this coronavirus has sparked a lot of anxiety and depression and sadly even some suicidal thoughts but just know that it’s okay to take baby steps towards your goals. Trust me as I know what it is like; I have spent many years struggling to do the simplest of things. However, like I said, at least we’re all in the same boat here. I want to state an example: imagine you’re too scared to go to the supermarket because you’re worried about the distancing and accidently touching something. With anxiety, it is a little similar to this because you’re scared to do something, even though you know you’re probably overthinking. It is a horrible feeling! However, just like anxiety, it’s okay to not do something when you feel this way. When I feel anxious, sometimes I conquer it but other times I don’t and the same applies to the situation with the supermarket! If anything, I think it’s perfectly normal to feel this way! If you’re anxious about going back to work, don’t feel like you have to rush to go back to it, if you’re not ready for it (obviously speak to your manager but you get what I mean). I want to remind you that taking small steps aren’t bad, they actually protect us (physically and mentally).

~ Let go of control

This may be a controversial, but I think that going back to life, it is important that you lose some of your pride. Let me explain… Of course, we’re able to make some decisions but for the most part, the government has control of our lives right now (to put It straight). I understand for a lot of you that is really hard as you’re having to be told what you can and can’t do, where to go, how many people you can see etc. However, approaching life annoyed and frustrated is not going to do you any good. I know it’s hard, but it is so important that you’re following the guidelines and taking proper safety precautions to get better. If you think about it, it’s to keep you safe and I know that I certainly want to feel safe! As most of you know, I am a Christian and initially letting go of control was hard, but I have learnt that God has got my life all sorted out. I know it can seem hard to go through life without control; you always feel like something needs to be done. I don’t know about you but when someone else does the dishwasher and it isn’t stacked in the right way, I will go back and reorganise it, but see that’s the beauty of putting our lives in God’s hands. God will never mess up your life, be reassured of that! I know that I am still learning to give it all to God. It can be especially hard when you want to do something so badly, but you can’t because someone else has control of your life and they don’t want to you to do it! However, trust me when I say letting go of (some of) your control is the best thing you can do. In the same way, be assured that these restrictions aren’t there to ruin your life, they’re actually there to make your life safer and better. Have an open mind and don’t see the restrictions as an obstacle but rather a blessing (however I get that it can be hard to do that!).

I know this blog is shorter than my other posts, but I want you to be encouraged that it’s okay to take time, it’s okay to be scared, it’s okay to be angry but give all of those emotions to God. ♡

YOU CAN DO IT!!

Love Emily xx

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